Why?

My friend John Foppe was born with no arms.

But John never ask the question.

"Why do I have no arms?"

The question he asks is, "What can I do with my feet?"

Having watched John eat with chopsticks, I'd say, "Almost anything!"

When tragedy strikes, or when we lose everything, or when a lover walks out on us, the question we usually ask is "Why?"

"Why me?"

"Why now?"

"Why did she leave me for a loser?"

Asking "Why?" questions can send us in circles.

Often, there is no answer to "Why?"

Or it doesn't matter why!

Effective people ask "What?" questions .... "What do I learn from this?"

"What am I going to do about it?"

When the situation is desperate, they ask, "What can I do, just in the next 24 hours, to make things better?"

The happiest people don't bother about whether life is "fair".

They just make the most of what they have.